There are many of you on FB know me for years.. and you know my heart in the past was fully for scholarship programs ..but now most people were surprising when they see me in fashion..I never really talk about it .. However,
Today.. i'm talking to one of the model who has a straight honor GPA ..and her education. program.. so it brought back to me all the good memory when i did the scholarship with the organization and community... so may be it's time to share with you .. my thoughts..

HERE IS THE LETTER awhile THAT I SENT TO FEW PEOPLE
WHO ASKED ME..why I'm not doing the scholarship program anymore..

Many of you have asking me about UVA (United Vietnamese Americans), I
like to share with you why I haven't involve much lately for charity
works. Since you have been supporting for many projects ,or just want
to know why so you can help me or the organization to continue our
mission.

Thank you I think time I like to share with you what I wrote
years ago to my team. My purpose to do it, in the future if I or anyone
ever doing a good cause, please try to help so our community have a
unity and more things to do. May be we can help the people who want to
do the good cause, so they have the energy to do more for the
community..such as helping out the children in VN like ACWP, Friends
of Hue,VNhelp, ICAN etc..or people help to maintain the culture,
promote leadership, and educational program such as like TET
festivals, Children Moon Festival, Viet Heritage, VAPA, UVA, VSVN,
VASC..ETC..or even VANG to promote role models for the youth to
follows..


Anyway, sorry, I flooded you with too many long emails Hhhahaha.. ..I
think I did warn you..that I'm a famous
"Spam" er... in the Bay Area..even politicians, governments, business,
corporations, medias..none of them feel left out when they know me:-).
Some people even told me that they miss me, when they don't see my
email hehhe.

Have a good day! If you have time..then read these info. below that I
share my thought with the communities

Debbie

Read the letter of the student first.

X-Apparently-To: debbie@networkpcb.com

Judy A Trieu wrote:

Good evening members of the UVA, friends, and distinguished guests. It
is a pleasure to stand before you tonight as the most recent recipient
of the UVA scholarship. I cannot express how grateful I am for this
aid. Before I heard from UVA, I had plans of getting a job while
attending Stanford University in order to pay what the University's
scholarships did not cover. However, when I received the UVA
scholarship, I was extremely relieved that I did not have to work so
that I could adjust to the college life without any financial worries.
For me, this scholarship made a significant impact by easing my
journey through college.

Like most Vietnamese students of my age, I am a first generation
Vietnamese American, who struggled to assimilate the culture of modern
America and the crucial values of my native heritage. These values
range from pushing the
limits of my educational potential to maintaining a strong connection
to the Vietnamese community.

Once again, the scholarship allows me to shift my focus from concerns
about meeting tuition to the beginnings of embracing my passion. My
ideal goal is to build medical clinics in the destitute villages of
Vietnam, where medical attention is most needed.

To take the first step towards my vision, I am joining an
international program that sends me to Vietnam this summer to
volunteer at a hospital with disabled children and the elderly. This,
I believe, is the essence of UVA and its importance to the Vietnamese
society. The scholarship helps us, as students, meet financial need
and it promotes the aspirations of young future Vietnamese leaders to
impart our
knowledge from the American education institutions to the much needed
streets of our native homeland.

Thank you UVA and generous sponsors for this opportunity.
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From Debbie Nghiem: Share my thought below to all my dearest friends,

..This is exactly why I have been doing so much charity works for any
organizations.. also it's another reason why I want to bring the
community together.. so we can help more students or disadvantage
people. ..although I know you do care for my benefit ..so you keep
telling me to quit or balance my life. Sometimes, I agree with you and
I even thought what i did..it was such a wasting time "tao lao
works.".

Because, many times, I had to run around at the last minute when a few
member didn't commit or lack responsible, since this is a volunteer
work so I can't expect too much.

Also,negative comments and criticize from people who didn't do the
work in the beginning; or not even bother to give me a hand or helping
the organization to improve but only like to make other feel bad by
blaming at someone, they make me feel sad.
More, few even said ."you should do this way ..you should do that" ..if they do care so much for
me or for the organization, then, I said to myself..."you should be
the one who has to step up to make the change, especially you are
Vietnamese-American or you are part of the team". I don't think I or
any members would stop them.

On top of that, when I heard some people
complained when I sell the the ticket for $10 or $20. to the event to
raise money for the students ....They said... it's too expense ...Tell
my why do you said that cost too much? hmm...especially like the
upscale event tonight with many entertainment for $80 at a largest
hotel in the Bay Area....

Well, I know many of you don't mind to spend
$500-$1000 for an event without hesitate or have a second thought,
because you think it brings benefit to you... Darn...then I feel
really sad. Did you know the people I brought over and they are most
high profile as well. How do we have chance to meet these people that
easily huh? We were lucky that they support us.

Anyway, I'm more
depressing...When I ask people for sponsor education program, I felt
like I'm a beggar. Well, on the other hand, I know if I use my time,my
knowledge to make money, then I may have more to support students in
education. However, what I and other members are trying to bring
everyone together as unity, so we can take care each other more than
divide into sector. Also, sometimes I really want to scream so loud
to everyone.. truly ..you are not really doing it for me or for UVA
only. You are helping the youth.. you are building the role model for
yours children to follow in the future too.

Well, because of those negative forces ..yes, they did effect me. I
let these things discourage my purpose, and my intention for helping
the youth lately. Last night, I was about to give up everything.

This morning, after I read this email speech from one of UVA
scholarship recipients. Also, once awhile..when i hear such an
expression or appreciate how the students feel about scholarship that
the community support their education. Plus at the rehearsal last
night, I saw only a few team members from UVA and my volunteers that I
recruited for the outside, they work tirelessly for this event. I also
had a volunteer who drove from Sacramento every day to practice for
fashion show. So we can have a nice entertainment to enjoy tonight.
Therefore, we can bring the community together for everyone gain
benefit such as social, create business bridge for you to meet the
people that may help your career advantage, knowledge and helping a
cause.

My feeling for charity works was coming back again. Even though, I
know the net profit for this event wasn't really much for all that
effort..for example.. let do a calculation with me. the cost of your
meal at a hotel is about $40ea+tax and service..it will come out
around $50 or more..then expenses for decorations, entertainments,
printing tickets, materials, sound system, brochures, compensation for
volunteers and their members family are about another
$10-$15...Therefore, we only raised net about $10-$15 each.. so with
all that effort ..we may only raise about 5k if we are lucky that we
have at least 350 people.but why we do it?

Is it worth it for all that effort? Are we not too smart? Well, do you
know ..our sincerely for helping the community will get recognition by
everyone soon or later. We are building a credit so more people can
gain trust for non-profit organization again, especially for a small
organization like UVA. We build our name so more corporations and
government can get involving with us.

Therefore, together, for those who want to help can achieve the goal
in a long term, and who needs help, then they will get the assistant
from UVA and the community to improve their life.. Besides, we can
help by connecting the young generation with the older generation, so
they can understand each others more. In additional, we help students
to remember about their root, or maintain their culture ...and yet one
day...hopefully when they accomplish their education then they can
help more people here or in VN.

Another point, her email helped me to wake up and remind me about what
I believe or things i had been doing ...which is the right thing for
me to do at this time for now . Yes, this had giving me more
incentives to do it again and again.. and truly ...this is how I find
my happiness, besides look for man who may make me feel warm one day
then hurt me again:-).

Well, as I have been gone through so many things in the past, but the
charity works helped me to be a stronger person. The volunteer works
have built myself esteem. It also develops my confident at the
present, so I can strive to achieve more for the students, young
talent artists, or any one needs the help, support new ideas and of
course to build the organization stronger, and especially for myself
in the future. Thanks to Judy for reminding me and the support from
UVA team, officers, friends, families and community.!

Debbie
P.S...this is how I feel ...I don't mean to offend anyone who can't
help UVA this time. ..I just want you to share with you from bottom of
my heart..that's all since I think you are my friends.

Date: Mon, 29 Jan 2007 18:14:50 -0800 (PST)
From: Hongnga Do
Subject: Re: Read this please- share my thought
To: Debbie Nghiem <debbie@networkpcb.com>

My dear Debbie,
I know your sad...but, with me, you and your teams did a good job for
this event...that was a fabulous night...no one is perfect, you did
your best.
Some time you feel blue...but you have been set your goal and you know
what to do...so take a rest a while...relax, take it easy, forget what
the people make you blue...then stand up, continue your goals...that
all I can share with you, my dear Debbie...even we just knew together
in short time...but I came to you from in the bottom of my heart...so
don't quit...because you do the good things to help the students for
education...you'll earn a lots of good things later, and 1day peoples
will recognize, appreciate what you did for their kids,students will
appreciate The UVA Team...had been help them to be a good people for
community...and they will continue your way...and your name Debbie the
one who created The UVA keep them remembering in their mind...so
thinks a long ways,ok my friend,I hope you understand what I want to
share with you...
Your make-up artist
Hong-Nga []

Here is more for you to read! this email from other friend...may be it
helps you little bit.
At 01:40 PM 1/29/2007, Khoa wrote:

HI Debbie..

we need to talk ..
what you have in the winter ball is very very special and very very
good...it was the first year I attended and I didn't expect much but
after this exposure I'll start shooting out emails to my friends for
next years winter ball...and especially easier for friends and family
to come if they knew I going to perform but definitely for 80 dollars
how can you go wrong?... violin/piano starter, an opening medieval
dance w medieval attire, opera singer singing 2 great pieces, buffett
dinner, large ballroom w gorgeous decorations, tons of models, three
fashion shows w feedback by the designers esp chau nguyen who is very
very good, an auction, a performance by andy quach...a performance
from miss Asian American sf jennifer field and a traditional Italian
piece "romeo and juliet", and a seasoned lido dj unit to entertain w
the dancing...

i feel bad for not contributing money but I'm sure I've done enough in
terms of providing the entertainment and helping the setup of the
project...money is always tight after Christmas and new
years...especially me i spent too much for xmas this year on my
family....

would be nice to have you email to everyone a thank you for all your
hard work....maybe you are working on that...

nevertheless..let me know about the event at the abyss...i am ready to
put 4 hours of hip hop/trance to get people grinding to the latest
hits..if you want to turn it into a fund raiser..it is okay w me..i
just want to dj and get my music out...I'm coming up w a trance song
sang by khanh ngoc/katelynn for that night....I'm gonna play it about
3 times so the audience will remember it...it's how I'm gonna get my
music out...and believe me you will like it...it's an adaptation of
the hit "amazed" by lone star....

______________________
My respond to him

Hi Khoa,

Thanks for your feed back! I'm sharing my point to friends and people
so they have a bigger picture. Because most people keep telling they
helped UVA because of me. Yes, I'm appreciated for the thoughtful, but
now UVA at a point that we need the support from the community as an
organization... not just for Debbie as an individual favors any more.
Once people don't like Debbie, then there is no more scholarships for
students, so I don't think that is fair for the volunteers and the
organization. I just want the scholarship program for students .. and
whoever does it then I'm there to support. I rather see the community
promoting the education, than we keep hearing about drugs and guns
from TV or Movies. Well, as for UVA, I worry for the volunteers if
they disappointed for their hard effort.

Honestly, when the former
president was there, I didn't want to step in his toes to do
anything..even the home boy doesn't really care much or put as much in
heart into the organization, that he was one of the founder and
created..therefore, I believe me and among of officers treated UVA as
a Club(Cau Lac Bo) instead of company. However, now the team delegates
this important task for me, therefore, my job has to make a change or
different. I still believe in scholarship program to support and
encourage the education for students. I will discuss with UVA team, I
will ask them... "if you think what UVA had been doing ...it's a right
thing for the community as a whole and for you as an individual, then
I would like everyone to help so we rebuild together as a team with me
and not for me. If any one who loves Debbie dearly but not UVA
programs yet, then I will suggest them to decide either to stay with
the team to learn more about us but I would like to see extra effort;
or step out so they don't have to feel obligate that they can't help
me ..then when I need help, I will ask them to do as a favor. If
majority told me that they join UVA because of Debbie.. then I will
say to this person.. thanks but "no thanks" ..because I don't want to
treat UVA as a personal favors anymore.. Therefore, my turn will make
a decision ..either I will be dissolved the organization, if no one
has the heart for UVA or time, so everybody can feel relief that they
don't have to help me any more. .. or if I still have the energy to
recruit people who believes about education and united for the
community so we can continue with UVA programs then I will continue
with UVA mission. Otherwise, since scholarship is what I believe, then
may be .. I will suggest the organization to combine with VHS(Ryan
Hubris) since they love to do scholarship as well or any other
non-profit organizations who want to do it ..or better yet.. I will
shift my focus by working hard to find for money then I do Debbie's
Scholarship program only :-) ..hmm...may be I can give more to
students and whoever needs my help but not feel owing anyone and worry
so much about everything else. Therefore, no one can say that I care
about the title.

Also, thank you very much for your friendship as always. I don't know
Feb18th is enough time to do a function at Abyss. ..at this point, I'm
really tired and felt down too. Let me get back to you today.
About thank you letter, of course I always do it..I'm waiting for
pictures so I can send together at one time..

talk to you later.


Debbie Nghiem

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